Why I Worked As A Nanny (hint) Unconditional Love

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When I was a young woman raising my two sons, my life was filled with love and gratitude every day.  Now as a grandmother, I find great joy “loving on” my grand-daughters.

However, because I don’t live near my sons, I miss the unconditional love that flows to and from babies and children.  Yes, grown sons and daughters love their parents, but they don’t generally rush toward you to be picked up and covered with kisses. (My favorite).

So, as I absolutely adore babies, I started nannying.  I wasn’t sure what to expect taking on a pair of three month olds in my 60’s, but I could not have enjoyed it more!  Everyday was filled with not only love, but delight, wonder and amazement—for all three of us.

Sure, there were tears and tantrums as with any child, but the love and laughter far out weighed all the rest.  

There is truly nothing that matches the joy of receiving the free flowing love offered by children.  If you are lucky enough to have children in your life, you will understand the power of a child’s love.  

Pet owners can attest to the need for unconditional love as well.  The only pet I had was as a child, but I clearly remember the powerful love my dog Skipper and I shared.

Equally, and perhaps even more impactful for the adult, or pet owner, is the exquisite feeling of giving unconditional love.

Why does the magic of unconditional love transport us?

The energetic, emotional and spiritual vibration of love is one of the highest and most healing frequencies one can experience.  These higher vibrations shift us into a physical state of rest and recovery, as our cells thrive and promote healing.

Meanwhile, our calm emotional state triggers a cascade of “feel good” hormones which keep our blood sugar regulated, our stress under control, and depression at bay.

Basking in the light of a child’s love is also, quite literally, healthy for your heart.  The hormone oxytocin is released when we hug or cuddle babies, children, adults, pets, or anything we love.  This hormone lowers blood pressure, reduces stress and is generally heart protective.  The good news is, both the giver and receiver of love reap the benefits.

As the breasts and lungs are also members of the precious fourth chakra, they share in the benefits from an open heart, and the exchange of love, compassion and expansion.

When I would hold a sleeping baby to my chest, and whisper into her/his sleeping ear, “you are loved and you are safe”, I could actually feel the healing energy connecting us heart to heart.

For me personally, I thrived during the four years that I was lucky enough to be a part of the love and care of two sets of adorable babies and their loving parents.  I nannied each pair for 2 years, (a boy and a girl both times), sharing their incredible journey from infants to toddlers. 

The experience made such an impact on me that I have written two baby/toddler books that are currently up on Amazon.  “You’re The One” about the joys of being a new parent, and “Gracie and Sammy” about the sweet relationship between two very different personalities.

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I am thrilled that the illustrator of my second book “Gracie and Sammy” is a VERY talented young artist who recently celebrated her 14th birthday.  Sarah Jane did an amazing job interpreting my words with the perfect illustrations.

Whether you have children, grandchildren, or pets, giving and receiving unconditional love benefits all involved.

For guidance and support on your journey to unconditional love, contact me for a free 15 minute consultation at nina.lynn@me.com, or call me at 301-332-5732.

Managing Menopause

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As women experience the hormonal changes of peri-menopause and menopause, they may find themselves dealing with fatigue, brain fog, bloating, tender breasts, weight gain around the middle and hips, headaches, insomnia, and mood swings.  That’s a long list.

Lowering levels of progesterone, can cause these symptoms as early as a woman’s 30’s.  

Then as estrogen levels drop down the road, our symptoms can become more severe with hot flashes, night sweats and even depression as lower estrogen drags serotonin levels down as well.

The hormonal rollercoaster gets into full swing with estrogen dominance as stress, high blood sugar, extra body fat, and xenoestrogens (chemicals that mimic estrogens in the body) from plastics, pesticides and even cosmetics, all drive estrogen levels up with too little progesterone to keep it in check.

I work with women in the following five major areas to help them manage the physical, emotional and mental challenges of peri-menopause and menopause.

Nutrition 

Stress Reduction

Adequate Sleep 

Appropriate Exercise 

Emotional Clearing

Replacing processed, refined packaged foods with real, organic, colorful whole foods is a first step to a gentle detox while providing the body with the nutrients needed to build, repair and detoxify.  

A good rule of thumb is to include (3-4 ounces) of a clean protein, along with a healthy fat and a real carbohydrate at each meal.

Real carbohydrates can be planted and harvested and should be eaten in their whole (not processed) form. There are no pasta, bread or doughnut trees that I know of.

Clean protein comes from livestock and poultry that are allowed to range free, with no antibiotics or growth hormone.  Or fish that are wild caught, not farmed.

Examples of healthy fats are, coconut oil, extra virgin olive oil, flax oil, organic nuts and seeds, avocados, flax seeds, and of course the essential fatty acids of omega 3 in fish oil and omega 6 in grass fed meats and in borage and primrose oils.

Damaged fats would be vegetable oils and canola oil.  These oils become trans fats during their high heat processing in preparation for the marketplace.  Trans fats damage arteries, and the gut, while causing inflammation.  Please steer clear.

These are very basic guidelines.  A personalized eating plan is the best way to provide the proper nutrition, and metabolic healing for YOUR specific system.  

Stress reduction is paramount in balancing hormones.  When cortisol (the stress hormone produced by the adrenal glands) is high, your estrogen and progesterone as well as thyroid hormones are suppressed.  

While high cortisol from stress drives up blood sugar, it also drives down serotonin (the happy neurotransmitter), which causes you to crave sweets.  

As the adrenal glands also produce 40% of the estrogen and progesterone in your system (from the precursors they provide) before menopause, and as much as 90% after menopause, it is a good idea to manage your stress so they are not exhausted by the time peri-menopause and menopause rolls around.

De-stressing can be as easy as closing your eyes, visualizing your “happy place” and taking long deep breaths.  Grounding is also a powerful way to calm the nervous system.  Grounding, or earthing is simply standing on the earth (grass or sand, not concrete) bare footed and connecting to the energy of the earth.  

Adequate sleep, being between 7 to 9 hours a night, also helps regulate hormones and allows for regeneration of the brain and body.

  • Beauty sleep suggestions include:
  • Get to bed by 10 pm.
  • Unplug from electronics 30 min before bed.
  • Make your room as dark as a cave, no ambient light.
  • Keep your room cool.
  • Enjoy a calming ritual before bed—soak in a tub, listen to relaxing music, read something spiritual or enjoyable, (please not the news).
  • Try meditation, visualization, gratitude or simply deep breathing.

Over-exercising can be a detriment to your very goal of health and fitness.  Over-exercise stresses and breaks down your system, aging you in fast forward.  

Moderate exercise in a form that you enjoy, will do you more good than pushing yourself to exhaustion.  If you find you have over done it, be sure to allow for more rest for a full recovery.  It is in the recovery that we get stronger, not in the work.

As women, we process information through our limbic system, the emotional brain.  It’s no wonder we attach emotions to “everything”.  

Emotions should be energy in motion.  When that energy gets stuck or blocked, it can cause physical, emotional or mental pain that keeps us stuck and unable to achieve our goals.

I use muscle testing with clients to bypass the conscious mind and free up the energy flow to clear stuck emotions and beliefs.  This allows for a more positive approach to challenges and unburdens the soul.

Along with incorporating the above Transformational Life Choices (TLC), finding an integrative medicine doctor who can help you with bioidentical hormone replacement therapy, BHRT, may be just what you need to manage your menopause with grace and ease.

As women of wisdom and experience, menopause should be a time of liberation and re-birth.  

The area of our body where we once created life is the center of all our creativity.  

If we tap into that area of creativity through art, dance, music, writing, whatever brings us joy and passion, we are bringing life once again to that most sacred center of female essence.

For guidance and support in managing menopause, contact me for a free 15 minute consultation at nina.lynn@me.com, or call me at 301-332-5732.