It’s not always easy to keep your cool when someone gets on your nerves. Whether they are deliberately trying to bug you, or whether you are merely interpreting their behavior as being irritating makes no difference in the stress you are experiencing.
Either way, it is not their behavior that causes you stress, it’s how you react to it. Knowing that you can control your behavior, but no one else’s is an important lesson.
We are all on our own journey in this lifetime, and the behavior of others, whether we agree with it or not, is a part of their journey.
If I find myself getting upset over someone else’s behavior, I consciously stop myself and say, “it’s not my journey”.
In that way I take myself out of the picture and have no need to react at all. I feel an immediate release and sense of relief, because it removes the emotional “hit” from the situation.
Another big lesson which helps manage stress brought on by other people’s behavior is the fact that 99% of the time their behavior has nothing to do with you. Not even if their words or actions are aimed at you. (That’s a tough one).
We tend to take things personally, and that leads to hurt feelings and misunderstandings.
Yes, we are human and our feelings get hurt. I'm not saying it's easy, but the more you practice letting go of personal attachment to someone else’s behavior, the more you will be letting go of stress.
It’s often helpful to take a deep breath, while you are repeating, “it’s not my journey” or “let it go”.
Your stress level depends on how you chose to react to a situation, not the situation itself. It is your choice, stressed or serene. Your reaction makes an impact on your health.
Stress will destroy your health, and peace of mind will enhance it, you decide. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth the effort and practice.
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